Episode 21 - Guilt and Grudge [ 8 min 14 s ] Download
"I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing. " ~ Buddy Hackett (Photo by Peter Suneson)
Of all the multitude of human emotions, guilt and resentment can break your spirit and crush the enjoyment out of life. You can carry both for a lifetime, and never recognize the weight that you’re dragging with you.
Guilt is a sense of inadequacy and self-reproach for feeling you have failed the “should’s,” “could’s” and “would’s”…”I should have done…”, “I could have done…” and “I would have done…” Carrying guilt is not only physically and mentally harmful, it’s unfair. No amount of guilt can undo a deed, or correct an error, so learning to forgive yourself is one of the healthiest ways to move on with your life.
Grudges, too, are ugly and self-defeating. While it’s human nature to want to strike back at someone who harms you, grudges zap your energy and cause little or no harm to the person who hurt you. For both guilt and grudges, learning to forgive can set you free.
Today’s guest is Vera Massey, Nutrition and Health Education Specialist for University of Missouri Extension. She is also co-creator of the MU Extension Taking Care of You Program.
To find a local “Taking Care of You” program, go to the MU Extension website and search for “Taking Care of You.”